How Can You Find Real Love on a Russian Dating Site?
Millions of men and women are looking for their other half, the one who ‘completes’ them. Many of us use dating sites, including Russian dating sites. Chances are that if you are reading this article that you have decided to try to complete your own life in this way.
Today I would like to share the story of a friend who found the woman he had been looking for all his life, who married her, built a family with a lovely kid and now lives in a lovely home by the sea in a place that both had dreamt of for years.
John and Natali’s story is not a common one for men looking for a Russian wife, but it should and can be! You see John had a system, one that is worth using if you want to avoid the many pitfalls and heartaches that go into finding, meeting and marrying a lovely Russian woman.
John, not his real name, is an intelligent man, he thinks things through and learns from the mistakes of others. Here’s how John met and married Natali.
A Successful Marriage is Not About Luck!
This meant that John could not hope to be successful by meeting just one woman on each trip, he needed to find a way to meet lots of women, face to face, where he and the women he met could decide whether to continue the process.
John made many contacts from the Russian dating site he was using and he made a firm plan with a committed timetable for visiting Russia. Before leaving for Russia he set up meetings with each of the women with whom he had made initial contact online. The meetings were not expensive dinner dates but rather coffee shop meetings where the two people could introduce each other, talk to each other, discover if there was a mutual attraction and whether it was likely that they could be compatible with each other.
There was no romance at this point, romance would come later.
After several days of coffee shop meetings John had a short list of women where both the woman and John felt there was a possibility of a deep and lasting relationship. John arranged a series of first dates with these women over the course of several days. Of course, John and the women he met found that sometimes, after the first date, there was nothing to make continuing worthwhile; no spark, no chemistry, different attitudes toward life, all the usual reasons why first dates don’t turn into second dates.
At the end of John’s first visit to Ivanovo he had a shortlist of 3 women who he very much wanted to continue to explore making a good marriage with. Before he left Russia, he made a firm commitment to return to Russia in just a couple of months and told each of the women that he’d be in communication with each of them until his return.
Time for Romance
Over the next few weeks John kept in touch with the three women, but shortly before he returned to Ivanovo one of the women decided that she wanted to stay in Russia and that marriage to John was not something she was interested in.
Before he got onto the plane back to Ivanovo, Russia, John truly felt that either of the lovely women he was going to see on this trip would make a great wife and life partner. He liked them both very much and they liked him, John felt comfortable with both and they had similar and compatible ideas about how to live life, raise kids and make a strong family.
Now it came to romance and building a relationship. To start with, John saw both women equally, most of his days were busy either with one, or other, of the women or planning things to do together but after a week or so he discovered that one woman, Natali, was occupying more space in his head, he found himself thinking of her when with the other woman and, worst of all, it was affecting his time with Julia. He needed to talk with both women. John discovered that Natali was developing strong feelings for him, but so too was Julia. John bit the bullet and decided to continue seeing just Natali. Julia was unhappy but she understood the situation and she certainly did not want to move to the United States with a man who did not have strong feelings for her.
For the next few days John and Natali spent as much time together as possible; now they were building the foundations for a life together. When John returned to the U.S.A there were tears from both at the airport.
Love Came and Love Stayed!
To cut a long story short, John and Natali met several more times before he popped the question. He even showed her where he wanted to make a home with her, a place, by the sea, that she adored! They have now been married for more than ten years and have a lovely daughter blessing their lives.
The takeaway from this true story is that a loving and strong marriage takes work from the outset. It is not enough to rely upon good luck. Given the huge distances and lack of time together people using Russian dating sites need to have a clear plan of how to succeed and, like John, should not put romance too early in the process. First find women that you want to make a life with and then the process of wooing and romance begins.
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